Open-Hearted Trust in Relationships and in the Flow of Life
Recently, this verse has given me comfort: "I give this situation fully to You (Energy of Life? Nature? The Goddess? We get to choose who we're appealing to). Please, please keep me open and show me the right actions. And if there isn't currently a solution, please at least help me accept it for now and show me what I could learn from this."
Why do I need to be saying this verse to myself? I recently started a relationship with an amazing man, which I thought was it. I practiced what I preach—open-hearted trust—I let him in emotionally, and we experienced a deep heartfelt and sexual energy between us.
But I didn’t see it coming. He ended it suddenly. He was right that we weren’t actually all that suited to each other. But it was the abruptness of it that threw me—one minute, I was part of a new and developing relationship, and the next, all those dreams were dashed.
On top of that, because of illness, I probably will not be able to visit my dearest friend for Christmas. With no family in this country, I face the likely prospect of spending Christmas completely alone.
Back to the verse I've been comforting myself with. I love it because it helps me avoid—or move out of—my old story of "I’m meant to be alone." That old belief, rooted in childhood, makes me shut down into my inner dungeon rather than staying open to both the pain of a relationship not developing and the fear of being alone. And it helps!
I feel sad, yes, even devastated at times. I fear being alone at Christmas. But I also know that if I found one great partner, I can find another.
And I can be creative for Christmas. Maybe I’ll find other friends or acquaintances who might also be alone for whatever reason, and we can meet up. That could be great!
It’s good to know I am not powerless, stuck, or defeated. Allowing myself to stay open is the key.
Trust in relationships, Healing after a breakup, Staying open to love, Vulnerability in relationships, Emotional resilience, Heartbreak recovery, Navigating loneliness, Holiday loneliness, Personal growth after a breakup
